The Secret Of Getting Along With A Boss Who Doesn't Laugh
If the boss does not laugh and his employees are annoyed, how does "facial expression violence" need to be answered and treated?
一个圆,上面加上两个点,下面一条两头上翘的曲线,就构成了足可传神的笑脸。在大型超市、酒店,甚至一些大公司,常常可以看到这样的笑脸卡片,时刻提醒员工:今天,你微笑了吗?但也许是因为这样的笑脸卡片很少摆上老板的案头,于是涌现出一大批人好、业绩好,只是笑不好的老板。而老板这看似纯属个人自由的不笑,却使办公室从此“暗无天日”。
甚至有专家认为:身在职场,那些“拧巴”的五官搭配对于周围的同事及伙伴而言,可能正在构成一种暴力侵犯。情绪是具有巨大的感染力的,当老板总是不笑,传递给员工的是一种消极、抑郁或焦虑的情绪,自然会使员工感到困扰和压力。虽然,微微一笑需要牵动面部13块肌肉,但是,相对于同样需要调动不少面部肌肉的发怒或皱眉,笑难道真就那么难?
Heavy pressure The "loss of laughter function"
If today's bosses have "occupational diseases", there is no doubt that they will not laugh. Some experts have said that as a boss, the pressure is at least ten atmospheres, or even hundreds of atmospheres. For a boss who is in an "anoxia" state, if you can't squeeze a smile, please let me feel a little bit of your attention.
员工自述:拍拍我的肩膀吧
To tell the truth, I hate to see my boss's invariable "smelly face". Our diligence and efforts always seem to be blind. Every time I see him, I despise and say, "do you laugh if you lose your dignity?" Of course, this is what I said in my heart. However, over time, we have a counterplan, that is, when we see him coming, we rush around or pretend to accidentally turn around.
一直以来,我对老板的不笑十分不解。看上去他并非闷葫芦型,对大家也决不苛刻,奖励上甚至算是慷慨,基本属于一个“三好老板”了。可笑容,绝对千金难买。据我们私下里统计:员工中至少有80%的人在和人力资源部门沟通时都提到了这一点,最惨的是人力资源部的总监,她对此也无计可施。
不过,也有不信邪的,我的同事小张就打算和老板较量一把,他的理论是:“他越是这样,我就是越要干得好给他看看。我的工作这么出色,他凭什么不对我笑一下?”小张的较量最后也没什么结果,虽然工作出色,频繁地拿红包,但我也没见老板对他笑几次。还有在我看来已修炼到顶级的同事,对老板的脸色阴晴与否已经做到可以完全视而不见了。
But no matter how I react, I understand that everyone in the heart really wants his boss to talk to himself once, even if he pats his shoulder, it is also an encouragement. But at least for the time being, this is still a fantasy. This year's year-end meeting is not attended by the boss, let alone communicate with employees. If he hadn't been a good man, many people would have left long ago.
The boss said: pressure Let me forget to laugh!
Indeed, the director of human resources has told me many times about my no laughing matter. But I just couldn't laugh. We are a private enterprise, built by me 10 years ago. Although it has been very successful now, the hardships experienced are not ordinary employees' feelings. I used to believe others very much, but I almost lost my life.
Since then, I have become increasingly understated, and trust is the most important prerequisite for choosing partners. So now, in my company, the good guys are not lacking at all, but there are not many capable people. The pressure is almost on me. Over the years, I often want to have a very good middle class to help me out. I am too tired. But in my mind, safety is the foundation. In the end, I choose some friends, family members or classmates who have been friends for many years to help do some supplementary work.
I am very busy, tired and annoying all day. Now I forget how to laugh. Besides, in this way, we can set up our own dignity. What's wrong with it? Besides, I have always been treated with a higher level of treatment. In their view, this should be the most important.
Besides, when employees see me around most of the time, I pretend not to see it, so as to avoid embarrassment.
“天生不会笑”的尴尬
Young people who do not like to laugh are often called "cool", which is a manifestation of charm. But as a boss, "do not like to laugh" will become a distance. It is a kind of "cold feet" that is "a thousand miles away." For a boss who is naturally not smiling, please do not stingy except for facial expressions.
员工自述:只见外冷,不见内心热
Actually, mine. Boss I didn't laugh at all. Just last month, I found that he was secretly changing himself. For example, he often walked around in his office and smiled to whom he said a few words, probably because the voice of the crowd was too loud.
But to tell the truth, he used to look at his expressionless face, but felt that his smiling face was even more difficult to look at. And most of the time, it seems that there is nothing to say. Sometimes, when I look back, I can't help watching him stand behind him. He himself certainly felt that the effect was not good, or he could not insist on it. This condition only returned to normal in less than two weeks.
The boss is really capable, everyone in the unit admits. Under his management, at least in the same industry, this unit is an excellent category with good reputation. Although the treatment is not very high, the pressure of work is also great, but it can be very good to exercise. When I first came, I went to work every morning. But it wasn't long before I noticed that the sky above the office seemed to be clouded forever.
The faces of the colleagues were tight and they did not know what others were doing, or even worked hard for a few days until they discovered that other colleagues had already done it. It is very surprising that someone has resigned and never sent a farewell party. The death of a rabbit makes people feel cool. And the boss is not absent, is a person stuffy in his office, although often also with everyone to hold a meeting, but want to get a few words of praise from him, can say: no way.
再往后,我开始每天早晨醒来,总会感觉莫名地烦躁了。熟悉他的老员工告诉我,他是个外冷内热的人。但问题在于:我只看到他外面的冷,可看不到他内心的热啊。
老板自述:我天生就不会笑
其实我老早就知道同事们对我的“不笑”,意见很大。眼看着一个个鲜活的新人变得谨小慎微,我比他们还纳闷儿。前几天我出差回来后没回家,直接去了单位。发现办公室里喜气洋洋,大家有说有笑,手里都还干着活,但他们看到我,立刻变得鸦雀无声。
I was particularly embarrassed at that time. In fact, I do not mind at all if everyone chatted with each other at work time. The working efficiency is not pressed by hard pressure. But I don't know why. Even though I try to stay in my office, I can't directly see them, but as long as I sit down, it feels like nothing.
I felt rather defeated in my heart, and I always called the names of the meetings, and I doubted whether they were sincere. Later, I started a small meeting, putting fruit on the table, making the appearance of the tea party, but still not. In addition to a few old staff's initiative to speak, others are still very cautious.
我知道很大程度是因为我不笑造成的,但我的性格就是这样,比较内向,工作这些年已经好了很多,可还是不常笑。整天时刻提醒自己要笑也挺累的,再说工作这么忙,我也常常没耐心就忽略了。可是,我特别不明白,笑并不是表达感情的惟一方式,为什么会造成这么强烈的效果,难道除了学会笑,我就没别的办法了吗?
Editor: vivi
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