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Don'T Worry About The Life Of A Boutique Woman.

2011/1/29 10:52:00 36

Worry is made by heart.

Modern urban women, because of more opportunities to contact the society, also have more self - performance and performance.

The potential of several generations of women has been bursting out in a generation. The "fine women" or "three high women" in everyone's eyes have emerged, which are highly qualified, highly educated, and highly paid.

Others have grown accustomed to looking up to them, thinking that they have enough ability to care and support.

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They themselves gradually become the slaves of "fine goods": because others feel that they are extraordinary, they deprive themselves of their right to make mistakes; because others feel strong and independent, they begin to hide their vulnerability and panic.

They alone support a sky and become the "big sister" that everyone admires. They are admirable or admirable at the same time, but they forget that they also need support power.

This kind of "forgetting" is the survival anxiety behind the glory of "big sister".

Thirst for excellence causes great pressure.

Because it has always been excellent and excellent, and has brought public recognition and respect. "

Elder sister

They often form a wrong judgement on themselves: "only if I succeed, can I be accepted."

At such a young age, such an idea may temporarily become the driving force to promote "big sister". However, as the age grows and competition intensifies, it will become more and more a burden to the soul. People will always feel in a sense of crisis, and the more they achieve, the more nervous they will be.

Therefore, the ultimate emotion, such as Anita Mui, will be released from the unbearable weight of life.

Be proud and timid to expose normal needs.

"Big sister" is often treated as Superman, so they themselves are used to suppressing their inner needs and weaknesses and tightly wrapping themselves up.

For them, the strength of the surrounding people is not enough to support their inner world. They can fight alone and encounter the solitude and fragility of "high altitude and cold".

Beneath their seemingly concealed appearance, they hide deep loneliness and sadness.

To a certain extent, this is also the sadness of many modern strong women who are overly pursuing independence and self-improvement.

Role dislocation in sexual relations

Heart guessing

Although refuse to be approached by others, "big sister" is not really "true."

Knife and gun

Not to enter, especially in seeking the other half's journey.

In fact, they tend to yearn for a truly beautiful love more than other women, and yearn for a shoulder that can be relied on.

However, it is precisely because of the desire to be true, the pursuit of perfection, and they themselves tend to be perfect, so they are always hard to find the right partner. A steady man does not feel good enough. The men who need her protection are too pale and weak.

And the men around the "big sister" also worry about how to enter normal love procedures with them and do not know how to maintain love.

Without the nourishment of love, the lonely elder sister is getting more and more vicissitudes.

Special consultant psychological counselor Lin Zi

Help the "heart" story

Such anxieties of survival have been increasingly appearing among modern women.

Appropriate anxiety can accomplish us, but too much anxiety or too much time will lead to a decline in the quality of life and even life.

Smart women, whether big sister or small bird, need to learn how to overcome anxiety and happy life, and learn how to get along with men.

Success is due to failure.

Any one person may encounter more or less frustrations, experiences or failures. If we only allow ourselves to succeed, it is like giving ourselves an irrational order to let us fight against the natural laws of life.

The result of this can only add to our inner helplessness.

On the contrary, if we give ourselves the right to make mistakes or fail to taste it, we will find out that in addition to ourselves, no one asks us to be perfect and succeed forever.

In fact, the only secret of success is to dare to fail.

Ordinary mind is the way of life.

Psychologists point out that all human beings have five basic needs: physiological needs, security needs, attribution and love needs, esteem needs and self actualization needs.

No matter which level is needed, it is a normal reflection of healthy mind. The more we can accept and satisfy them, the more power we can gain and the more real and comfortable life we have.

Therefore, to accept the ordinary nature of life, take the initiative to get out of the aura, close to others, and establish their own social support system, will not only threaten the status of "big sister", but also increase the charm of "big sister".

Remove the aura and plain love.

"Big sister", because of her intelligence and courage, often shows a decisive attitude and makes people feel that they are arrogant.

However, the love field is not battlefield. In the relationship between the sexes, even if the elder sister is as big as Amy, the femininity is gentle, gentle and considerate.

In fact, if they can face up to this point, take off their aura and take themselves as ordinary women in the emotional world, their love and mentality will be simple and simple.

This is also applicable to men who live with them. If we can take a look at this seemingly strong woman, then the conversation between men and women will be much easier. - after completing the role pition between the workplace and the love field, plain and simple love is more able to nourishing and supporting the female soul than any achievement.

Success and happiness are everywhere.